Thursday, June 16, 2011

Remembering Tyson

I just wanted to take a day to honor one of the best men I knew.  A year ago today, my cousin Tyson Lane Larson, passed away.  He was 28 years old when he passed and we all miss him dearly.

If I could write a little tribute to him, take a second to tell you about the man he was, I feel like somehow I am paying tribute to his character, to who he was.

He was a man of God.  He loved the Lord and showed it in the way he lived his life.  He was so kind.  His tender heart was unmatched.  He was always thinking of others and putting them first.  He was so accepting and loving, always making sure everyone felt like they fit in.

One night when I was about 8 months pregnant with Eli, I was feeling a little stressed because I didn't have Eli's room ready yet, it still needed to be painted, and I had no help.  My parents were out of town and my husband was in Austria.  I called Tyson to ask a question about patching the holes in the wall before I painted.  He kindly answered, telling me how and what I would need.  We hung up the phone and I started to try to patch the walls.

Not 20 minutes later the door opened downstairs and Tyson and his sweet wife Lindsey walked through the door with their paint clothes and supplies.  Then a little later his mom and dad (my aunt and uncle) came over and they had the room painted that night.

I didn't ask him.  He didn't have to help.  It was about 9:00 at night.  He didn't think about if he would be tired in the morning when he had to get up for work.  He didn't think about just relaxing at home and taking some time for himself.  He thought about me.  He dropped what he was doing just to help me.

Then there was the time we went on a cruise as a family.  I had found out I was pregnant the night before we left and I was obviously upset about it.  I was crying in the airport and somehow Tyson was the only one to notice.

Tyson: "you can tell me, Nat.  Everything is gonna be okay."

Me: "no, no Ty, this is a big one.  I don't think so."

Ty: "no, nothing is too big.  You can tell me."

Me: "Well, I'm pregnant."

*Pause*

Ty: "yep. That's a big deal."

Then for the rest of the trip, Tyson was my protector.  He explained to people about why I was drinking decaf coffee because I couldn't find the words.  He talked me out of running away because I thought that was my only option.  He was my cousin, my friend, my encourager.  He was there for me when I needed it the most. 

And although I have many fond memories of Tyson, these will stay in my heart forever.  These are a clear representation of who he was as a person.

If you have a second, his wife wrote a post about the man he was.  I know it isn't the same because you didn't know him, but it is an incredible post.  He was an incredible man and chose an incredible woman to spend his life with.

Life is short.  Live each day like it is your last.  No regrets.  No grudges.  You never know when the Lord will call you home.  If you don't know the Lord, pray that He will show himself to you.  Life is too short.

Here is a quote from Tyson's brother "I’m going to try not to think of it as such a bad day, but as a good day. I’m going to try and see it as what it really was, God called him home because his work here on earth was done. Tyson lived such a awesome God honoring life that God said, “you did it! Your reward is heaven."

We're not sad for Tyson.  We know where he is because of how he lived here.  We are just missing him down here.  I am looking forward to seeing him again someday!

Tyson and his wife Lindsey after Eli was born

Tyson and Lavar

Tyson and my brother Eric in Alaska

Tyson the night before he was taken 'home'.  Picture taken by his wife.  This face sums up his personality.


16 comments:

trininista said...

To have such incredible love all around his memory is testament to the kind of person he was. So young but at least as you have described, he lived each day to the fullest. Hugs and prayers to his wife and all his loved ones.

Tammi Durso said...

Well said, Tal. I'm so glad you took the time to honor Tyson today. He deserves it. He will be forever missed.

Sharon said...

Tal you have an amazing and loving family and I know you will all get through this day ... it is hard I know but we just have to keep telling ourselves to focus on where they are now and what wonderful and beautiful memories we carry in our hearts forever.

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful memorial to Tyson. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

TracyP said...

A beautiful post for a wonderful man. Thank you for opening your heart and allowing us to know him better.

TexaGermaNadian said...

Wow, what a tribute to an obviously worthy man. Isn't is amazing how some people are put on this earth to touch our lives in wonderful ways? My thoughts are with your family today. Thank you for sharing this with us all.

Grammy Goodwill said...

What an impact your cousin had on your life and so many others. I read some of his wife's posts and can feel the love they shared. My sympathy to you and your family.

Chrissy said...

A beautiful post! xxx

Lindsay said...

Beautiful post Tal. I know today will be sad for your whole family, but I know you all are amazingly strong and encourage one another. Just always remind yourself of the great memories you had with Tyson. Those will be in your heart forever. Don't ever stop talking about him, always tell your kids the great stories about him, talk with Lindsey about him. Make sure you all always remember the amazing life ge lived and how he touched so many lives. It is hard and sad but with Erich being gone I find comfort in so many things.
My biggest thing is to tell stories of our friendship to people/family because that's what keeps his memory alive :-)
Love you!!

Teresa Rose McClain said...

there are no words, just my love. and tears. and the word of God

Oh, the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and the knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgements and unfathomable His ways! For who has known the mind of the LORD, or who became His counselor? For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be the glory forever. Amen. (Romans 11:33-34,36)

MiMi said...

This makes me incredibly sad. :(
If I'm not too nosy, was he sick or something? He looks so beautifully perfect and healthy.
I love that you said:
If you don't know the Lord, pray that He will show himself to you. Life is too short.

So many people, Christians TOO!, say, "Oh, you might not believe, that's fine."
But really, it's not. It's sad.

Jennifer said...

Lovely tribute!! So comforting to know you'll see him again, huh?
:)

Shannon said...

What a beautiful post...I was touched by your words and felt like I knew Tyson myself. What a gift he was to you and your family. It is good to know Jesus, isn't it! :)

I'm your newest follower, and I can't wait to read more!

~Shannon
www.hercuprunsover.com

Shannon Olson said...

Ok I can't handle this, its so sad.
I read your post and then I read Lindsey's whole blog and now I am crying like a crazy person! OY
I can't imagine how she is even getting on with her life!
She must be a very strong person.

Lindsey said...

Love it Tal! Thank you for always finding a special way to memorialize Tyson and share his life!

Chasing Joy said...

Sorry for your loss. It is ok to miss him but be comfortd that you will see him again in Heaven. That is what I try to remeber when I think of my dad.

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