Wednesday, April 6, 2011

What I wore Wednesday

Good Morning everyone.  I only have one outfit today.  But it was such a beautiful day taking pictures, look at the sky, it was awesome.  I am loving this weather for sure!
As you know I spent the weekend in Paris with a friend of mine.  It was fun to cruise the Seine and see Paris from an entirely different view than I have ever seen it before, but honestly, it was a tough weekend. 

You should have seen this apartment.  I walked in and thought 'oh this is gonna be bad.'  It was small and breakable with no yard.  All you mom's out there can feel me.  I was stressed all weekend that one of my kids would manage to blow up the place somehow.  Oh did I mention, they don't have kids so they don't understand.  At all.

Then to top it all off, after I returned home she called me to tell me that basically she is totally against an aspect of our (my husband and I) parenting style.  She said she couldn't sleep and her boyfriend too and yadayadayada.  Now mind you, this is someone who is 23 and doesn't have kids.  And you are basically telling me that you think I am a bad mom and you thought that all weekend and didn't say a word to me and then call me to tell me that.  Lovely.  Can I say it sucked?  It sucked.

Thankfully, I have an awesome encouraging husband.  We do our best to love our kids and raise them the way that Christ would want us to.  This is what we choose.  If someone else chooses differently, that is okay!  Those aren't my kids or my responsibility.  But these ones are and we are doing our best to biblically raise our because because we have to answer for them.  So with all do respect, stay out of our buisness!!!

Okay sorry, just had to vent a sec.  Phew, I feel a little better.  I love my boys with all my heart.  And then this face makes it all better


Has anyone else had problems like this?  How did you handle them?  I would love to know, because this girl is my friend...  Anyway, thanks all and have a great Wednesday!


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14 comments:

Amber said...

She will learn honey, the hard way, but it is not nice to be judged and I feel you. Great photos and you look beautiful, have a lovely week. axx

Handbags*N*Pigtails said...

Thats a tough one. The biggest part is that as you said...she's not a mommy yet. One day she'll "get it." But you also need to stand your ground on your decisions as a family.
Hopefully it wont ruin your friendship.
I dream of Paris...someday, someday:)
Xo,
Sarah

Michelle said...

I'm sorry that happened to you! I don't have children yet, but I do know NOT to judge anyone's parenting style, no matter what!! I would have been a nervous wreck inside that apartment too! You are right...you raise your children, you are the one that has to answer for them. I know you are a good mother!!!

You look amazing in your pics, by the way!! What a beautiful place to be photographed!

Have a lovely day!!
Michelle

momstheword said...

I was standing in line at the post office with my kids when they were little and a man (a total stranger) told me I was a bad man.

My boys were playfully poking at each other and I told them to keep their hands to themselves and stand quietly in line (Christmas time, huge line).

The man told me I was a bad mom. I explained that if they started poking and playing like that, it would escalate into pushing and shoving and would disturb the people around them by bumping into them.

Then a woman with two boys came in. They started playfully touching each other in line. Pretty soon they were laughing and kept bumping into the people around them (including the man). They laughed, shoved and talked loudly while mom tried to ignore them.

Then, the youngest one went over to the window and began scratching off the Christmas scene that was painted on it.

The man came over to me and said "I apologize. You are a GOOD mom!"

I have seen many parents ignore their kids behavior over the years, and I will always be thankful for the ones who are trying to raise respectful children!

Mine are 18 and 22 now, and they are very respectful. My boys have never sworn or yelled at me (actually I have never heard them do that to anyone else either) and they have beautiful manners.

They aren't perfect but neither am I and Jesus loves us anyway! So stay the course, my friend, you are doing beautifully!

Shanna said...

Wow!!! That would probably be an end to our friendship, to be honest... First of all, no one should judge how another chooses to raise their children, especially someone that doesn't have any kids. The pictures are beautiful! And here is how I look at it, if your kids are healthy & happy, then you are doing something right. The most important thing, is for your kids to know they are loved. Kids are going to be kids... And someone that doesn't have kids, or isn't around kids, probably doesn't really understand what all that means... Sorry for the long comment. It just upsets me when people judge others, especially on parenting styles. Parenting is hard work, and we are all doing our best, to ensure our children are raised the best way possible. And it hurts when someone criticizes how you have decided to raise the loves of your life.

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xoxo, Shanna

MiMi said...

Seriously??
She's a friend?
Ugh.
I dunno...nobody's ever said too much to me, besides my mother. LOL
What did you say to her?
I guess I would have said exactly what you just said in the post.
AFTER I picked my jaw up off the floor.

Rebecca @ My Girlish Whims said...

In the words of Full House....How Rude!!!

Cranky people!!! Oh well. You look cute at least! And what a gorgeous view!! Makes me want to go frolic around in a field

Melissa: Write it in Lipstick said...

Oh I hate that, I so feel you. I would have been after my kids the whole time making sure they didnt blow up the place and I would have coutned the seconds until we left. I hate that feeling when "they" dont understand how kids can be kids.

Write it in Lipstick

Nicole said...

She's young. She doesn't get it. Everyone thinks they are the perfect parent until they have children. Then they see how much work it is. You are doing fine and I am sure your husband is too! Kids can't expect to be kept quiet and perfect all the time. Sorry you had a bad weekend. It's always hard to hear criticism from someone that is a friend. She should support you. Being a mom is hard work!

Now for these great pics! I love all the pretty green grass! How lovely. Your outfit it cute!

Jennifer said...

Cute outfit! Well fewy! Sorry it was a tough weekend! I do believe that your friend is immature since she doesn't respect how you and your husband raise your boys. I agree with you...they are your responsiblity and it is your right to choose how to raise them. Glad you have that cute smile to turn it all around!!

Renee B. said...

Some people seriously need to keep their thoughts to themselves! Especially if they aren't in a place to be giving advice (hello, not even a mom). Oh dear. I hope you can move past this soon (yay for a supportive hubby!) and enjoy the rest of your week! I just found your blog and love it....you are awesome! xoxo

Grammy Goodwill said...

I can't believe this is your friend. And she waited until you went home before she said anything - she could have at least asked you about it while you were there. Try to let it go ~ one day she'll understand.

Nina @ Momma Go Round said...

OUCH! Way to have a sucky end to a what looks like a beautiful weekend. I guess I would just say to her that you appreciate her concern, but she does not have children, and when she does she will never have your children, so please don't assume you understand the workings of my family in a weekend. That is so tough, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. At least you look adorable doing it!

Teresa Rose McClain said...

I would chalk it up to nievity and immaturity. Stay strong in the Lord. When we do our best to follow His guidance, His grace covers all else. Have you heard the song "Jesus I My Cross Have Taken" ? it's one of my favorites. Here's a quote from it.

Let the world despise and leave me
They have left my Savior too
Human hearts and looks deceive me
Thou are not like them untrue
And while Thou dost shine upon me
God of wisdom love and might
Foes may hate and friends disown me
Show Thy face and all is bright

Love you!

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